I am in the process of reading a very interesting book called, ‘The Fall of Western Man’. I will not go into the book in full detail but it is a book I would strongly suggest reading.
Here is a quote: “If the male can be described as the ‘head of the house’, the female could easily be described as the ‘heart of the home’.”
We often struggle in relationships that do not acknowledge the natural roles of nature. By this I mean, women naturally nurture and men naturally show authority or strength. I am not saying that women are not strong or men are not able to be caring. What I am saying is each person in a relationship has a natural role. With this given role, each must understand that the female is more emotionally driven while the man is more physically driven.
With that said, I would like remind those out there that when you have a happy wife, you have a happy life. If you do not want her “nagging” you to get something done, then do it with the understanding that she feels it needs to be done for a reason. This small accomplishment leads to her being happy and in turn, she shows her loving side that you would prefer to see.
It can also be applied to parenting. Mother’s being the natural sensitive person, it hurts her to have to reprimand the children on a constant basis. If a mother says to the child, “Wait till your father gets home.”, it is because she is acknowledging that the child is going beyond her authority level and needs the masculine assertion from the father. While this may sound like the child is not respecting the authority of the mother, you are correct….That is why the parents operate as a co-parent and back each other up when one is feeling overwhelmed. The father steps in and his feelings are not so tense from handling it and can rationalize with the child with authority to teach the child the with appropriate reprimand.
Don’t forget that in this world where we always want to forced equality, we are not the same by nature and we should acknowledge those attributes in our relationships. Because a happy wife gives you a happy life…In due time.